Managing External Boundaries
When we talk about having boundaries, we can talk about managing external boundaries and we can talk about managing internal boundaries. This blog will discuss the management of external boundaries. To better understand external boundaries, it helps to understand the concept of interpersonal boundaries. Interpersonal boundaries are the rules we establish for ourselves about how we interact with other people. We can compare interpersonal boundaries to having a house. The house, with roof and walls, protects us from the outside, and keeps our possessions together.Read More
How to be a good ally for someone in recovery
For individuals in recovery, finding the support of others within the rooms of 12-Step fellowships is critical for success in achieving long term sobriety. However, it is just as critical for those in recovery to gain support and acceptance from their loved ones who may not suffer from substance use disorder. While relationships may have become strained during active addiction, the truth is, your loved ones suffering from addiction need you to be there for them as an ally.Read More
PTSD, Alcoholism and Veterans: What is the Connection?
Harsh. Hostile. Volatile. These words only begin to describe the experience of combat veterans. They are in fight-or-flight mode for extended periods of time. They must make decisions that deeply move against religious, moral and value coding. There is no time for grieving, no safe space to process, no place for emotion of any kind.
It’s no wonder some develop PTSD along with an alcohol use disorder in an attempt to self-medicate.Read More
Coping with Job Loss and Rebuilding Your Life
No matter what has caused you to lose your job – losing employment can be devastating, and if you aren’t managing your stress in healthy ways, relapse can be right around the corner. In order to avoid slipping back into old behaviors, follow these important tips as you begin to navigate your new situation.
Recovery Before Everything
If you’re in recovery, it’s likely you have heard the saying “anything you put before your recovery, you risk losing” hundreds of times.
How to Change Your Life with 3 Daily Habits
“If you are someone who has struggled with addiction, you are excellent at forming habits.”
The first time my friend Dr. Darlene Mayo said that sentence to me, I was a little taken aback, and very intrigued. She was right: addicts are great at forming habits, and that propensity, when applied for good, can be life-changing.
During our conversation on The Recovered On Purpose Show, I shared with Dr. Mayo the story of my past as a homeless heroin addict, and my present as someone seeking to change other people’s lives through the power of the lessons I’ve learned on my journey to recovery.Read More
Why Journaling is a Powerful Recovery Tool
Of the many helpful tools you can use to aid you in your recovery, keeping a journal is among the easiest and most powerful. It’s easy in the sense that you can do it pretty much anywhere, at any time. All you need to start journaling in recovery is a piece of paper and a pen. It’s powerful because it works in so many different ways to help you organize your thoughts, process your feelings, and alleviate stress. Here are some of the benefits of journaling for recovery, as well as tips to help get you started.Read More
Arrested? Addicted to Drugs or Alcohol? Look for Drug Court
Getting arrested is a scary thing. It can be even more so when you are dealing with a drug or alcohol addiction. Traditionally, if you were found guilty of a drug-charge, you’d receive a long jail sentence.
Thankfully, drug court entered the picture in 1989. It diverts selected defendants with drug or alcohol related charges – typically those with less serious offenses – into treatment versus prison.Read More
Eat Up: 7 Recovery Foods to Manage Mood Swings
Mood swings are some of the most common symptoms experienced during the early stages of addiction recovery. These can include increased irritability, stress and anxiety. While many people seek relief via anti-stress and anti-anxiety medications, that is simply not an option for most people in recovery. Luckily, there are some simple dietary changes you can make that will help to boost your mental state and offer renewable energy. Here’s a look at some trusted recovery foods that are known to help manage stress and anxiety.Read More
The Stages of Me
My sober friends who have come to know me also know that I like to chunk things down. Give me a list and I’m good to go!
When I look at my life in retrospect without the fog of alcohol, and also look at my life with curiosity going forward, I can segment it into four categories: Outside Me, Reclamation Me, Inside Me and Journeywoman Me.
In my Outside Me phase, I became a pro at personal and physical reinvention.Read More
Addiction and Estrangement
Addiction can roil relationships with abuse, betrayal, and domestic violence, placing great stress on a family. Typically, parents and siblings who try to help or manage a family member’s addiction find themselves sapped of emotional energy and drained of financial resources. My survey shows as many as 10 percent of respondents suspect that a sibling is hiding an addiction.
I wonder: Does the addiction produce family problems, or do a dysfunctional family’s issues result in addiction?Read More